out in an argument or to hurt someone.
out in a moving vehicle.
A person is
more intelligent than a group of people; come out to people one at a
time and somewhere private.
are ignorant may say things initially that they don't realize are
painful to hear. Remember they are simply unaware and in a state of
surprise. They may
in drag is a bit much [unless you really have the right shoes...]
to deal with: the issue
of gay stuff and you as a
combination of the two since you probably don't fit the stereotype they
have about gay peeps.
your lover with you.
Be ready for
them to need time and space to think about things before any discussion
Be ready for
them to drill you with questions that may or may not offend you [see
it's easier to read about an issue than to admit you are uneducated.
Have a book, pamphlet, phone number, or other resource that can be
called upon when you're not around.
It is your
life to live, and you only have one, and the bottom line is that you are
going to continue living as a gay person no matter what their reaction
It may not
be a bad idea to have smelling salts handy.
people who will never be supportive no matter what is said.
audience had that deer in the headlights look, don't make any quick
coming out experiences are ever the same.
on doing anything else for the rest of the day/night. People will
need a lot of time, for the most part, to really think about things.
an escape plan. You may not need it, but if you do, you won't be
surprised. Have a place to crash for the night, and money you can get to
in case a worst-case scenario does occur.
resources for you to call -- you need support too!
you come out to someone once, doesn't mean you won't have to do it
again, and again, and again.
Do not try
to answer questions about Richard Simmons, Rosie O'Donnell, Keanu
Reeves, Tom Cruise, Richard Gere [or the Gerbils], Oscar Wilde, the
Spice Girls, Bert and Ernie, or anyone else.
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